I ran across an article that filled me with sorrow while at the same time giving me a smidgen of hope.
Columnist Virginia Heffernan has been in the conservative/Christian news for the past couple of days. Her admission of believing in Creationism and her handling of the expected vitriolic assault from the mainstreamers is both confirmation of our fears of how hostile and intolerant society is to faith and differing belief and encouragement because one of us has courageously stood up and spoken honestly and then courageously stood up to their hatefilled response as well with character and backbone.
Virginia’s article titled “Inside the Infidelity Club”, gives me much the same duality of feeling.
I love marriage, family, and relationship, and more specifically God’s perfect blueprint for them. Seeing what society has made them… the destruction of the family, hearts, and lives is a topic never far from my consideration. It’s so difficult for me not to be filled with sorrow bordering on hopelessness as I perceive a continual and accelerating decline, and find little to give hope of a return to sanity and health. Virginia’s article took me into the deepest regions of that dark valley as she describes a message-board for women who gleefully discuss their extramarital affairs: having them, loving them, justifying them, planning them, recounting them, feeling entitled to them, encouraging one another to greater depths of betrayal, etc. She contrasts it with a second message-board for women* who are trying to survive being betrayed by their spouse.
My smidgen of hope is engendered by her choosing to explore/expose this difficult subject in a mainstream forum and wasn’t afraid to be honest and call the bad bad and speak truth regarding the terribly selfish immoral hateful behaviors and the horrible pain they cause others… to be honest and say that it’s unequivocally wrong. Maybe that’s part of the answer to turning stampeding herd that is rushing headlong for cliff’s edge… people standing up and clearly saying, “This is wrong. It’s hateful, selfish, immature and despicable. It’s wrong and there’s absolutely no justifying or rationalizing it.” What a gift to those who have operated under these lies so very long with the rest of the world cheering them on to new depths of depraved inhuman behavior.
She doesn’t stop there however. She goes on to outline efforts she intends to make to be certain that she is protecting and building her own marriage… not things she sees that need fixing in her spouse, but extra efforts she herself plans to make to grow herself and her marriage. If anything, I suspect this final bit may be of even greater value to those living the lie than even her speaking truth to the lie. I could see this finding chinks in hardened hearts and exposing self-deceptions that might have stood unexamined indefinitely. The thing that seems to be most feared by persons of a moral-relativist humanistic bent is self-examination. Denied pre-knowledge on a much-suppressed honest level, that they would ‑not- like what they would find, fills them with a terror-driven goal to avoid such an exercise at all cost. Perhaps her critical self-examination will be ignored just determinedly as the usual frontal-attack on their lifestyle, but I have hope to the contrary.
Even if the results on the heart of one who reads and absorbs her personal exploration is not immediately and drastically felt, it may be that what Ravi Zacharaias says is true of the application of apologetics on a hardened spiritual heart may also be true of her efforts on a hardened relational heart. He states that apologetics can only take you so far and no further in many cases. He said that it is rare if not unheard-of to ‑argue- an atheistic heart into belief in God. Over the years he’s been told by many former-atheists that such arguments, while admittedly having some small influence on their shift, were not the cause of or impetus behind the shift.
* No indication if there are similar communities of devastated men.