For several years I’ve run across anecdotes and stories of wonderful things to keep a marriage joyful. Every time I did the same thought crossed my mind, “I love this, this is wonderful, I must remember to do this… or rather… I must never forget to do this.” That is of course if ever I am again in the position to remember or never forget.
I’ve always thought that I’d remember all these things, but of course no matter how poignant or profound, my memory is a terrible place to try to store things.
Henceforth I resolve to enumerate them here, for be benefit of my beloved should I again have a beloved, or for the benefit of your beloved if you happen upon this diary of heart aids.
We’ll start with categories and add things as I run across them again or anew. Below I’ll also be building a list of things that different families do to keep faith and relationship strong.
For One’s Beloved
- Notes and Reminders of Love
- Note to self: Reminders, attitude and action.
- “Would you rather be right? Or would you rather be married?” — Chaplain Bart Larson
- Marriage Isn’t for You ∴ (pdf)
- “Whatever you did when courting to portray yourself as ‘Good husband material’, never cease lest you become ‘Bad husband material’. Don’t playact the used car salesman lest you stick her with a lemon.” — cmc
- “Be very good at finding good and with a gracious heart, be very faulty at finding fault.” — cmc
- “You’re never too important to serve someone else. Don’t live to get, live to give.” — Jarrid Wilson
- “Don’t be judgin’, if you struggle with being judgemental. Do be judgin’, if you lack judgement.” — cmc
- It’s ok to be ‘boring’ if you’re loving, steadfast, supportive, building, leading in Christ, and faithful. In other words, being a man of honor and value and heart across the long haul is the new (and old) romantic. “The Real Truth about ‘Boring’ Men — and the Women who Live with Them: Redefining Boring” ∴ (pdf)
- “To keep your marriage brimming, With love in the loving cup, Whenever you’re wrong, admit it, Whenever you’re right, shut up.” — Ogden Nash, poet, 1902–1971
- “What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life — to strengthen each other in all labour, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?” — George Eliot
- I would so do this for my beloved. What an awesome guy. This Guy Traveled The Country In A Pink Tutu Just To Make His Wife Laugh During Chemo ∴ Pintrest ∴ pdf
- “Love is hard work. It is the hardest work I know of, work from which you are never entitled to take a vacation.” — Ravi Zacharias
- “At the beginning, your love supports your marriage. Later on, your marriage supports your love.” — Larry Christiansen
- Top 10 Relationship Killers — True Love Dates ∴ (pdf)
For One’s Family
- Whimsey, Fantasy, & Imagination