Should I or shouldn’t I?
Indeed, if the counsel sincerely offered by Pastor Thompson is correct, the implications for Ted’s marriage decision are very sobering:
- In all the world, there is either no person or only one person who is eligible to be his wife.
- If God wants him to remain single and he marries anyone at all, he is out of God’s will.
- If God has a particular wife chosen and he marries someone else, he is out of God’s will.
- If the woman God has selected for him marries someone else, he cannot enjoy God’s will not matter what he does.
- If either of the pair marry out of God’s will there is nothing they can do to reverse the decision and return to the center of His will. They are permanently stranded in the barren terrain of God’s “second (third, fourth,…) best.”
Chapter 17: Singleness, Marriage, and Wisdom — Pg 283–284, Decision Making and the Will of God, A Biblical Alternative to the Traditional View, 1980, Garry Friesen with J. Robin Maxson.